tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post3445425661969468885..comments2024-01-13T18:35:19.562-08:00Comments on Backpacking Dad: In which I realize that I am not awesomeBackpacking Dadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02498905428420679901noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-58249067622456161312008-05-06T08:59:00.000-07:002008-05-06T08:59:00.000-07:00Wish there were more of you to go around. I've nev...Wish there were more of you to go around. I've never related well to those of the female persuasion and am more distraught when I feel like the mommy groups I manage to drag myself to are sales pitches in disguise.<BR/><BR/>You are awesome! Give those dangly bits some air and give yourself a pat on the back...then get to work on cloning yourself.Paigeyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10930751181765899306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-45612367817291138852008-05-04T11:15:00.000-07:002008-05-04T11:15:00.000-07:00Your very presence in this group may be what gave ...Your very presence in this group may be what gave her the courage to speak her mind. After all the group accepts you (& your dangly bits). Perhaps the statement of your fitting in was all the 'statement' she needed?Helen + ilana = Hihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16416440003661972174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-40281962304406210392008-05-03T19:53:00.000-07:002008-05-03T19:53:00.000-07:00It occurs to me that I have never, not once, taken...It occurs to me that I have never, not once, taken part in a play group. They really didn't have play groups when the older two were little and I'm one of those working moms... plus? I'm weird. And completely off-kilter in the <BR/><BR/>I think everyone's got their fringe moments about something. At least you SAID something in response and not just stared at her silently for exactly three seconds so she had time to feel like an idiot.Gerbilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05483627399876857508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-49694941899776581612008-05-03T11:04:00.000-07:002008-05-03T11:04:00.000-07:00It's really interesting to look at the ways people...It's really interesting to look at the ways people connect--or, rather, don't--with each other, and how that makes us feel. When I feel left out of a group because I'm "different" for some reason (most likely the chemistry's just not there, you know?), I'm slammed right back into high school. Reading this, it's only juuuust hitting me that other people feel that too. Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-33046612298422230122008-05-02T19:58:00.000-07:002008-05-02T19:58:00.000-07:00BookMama: thanks very much.BookMama: thanks very much.Backpacking Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02498905428420679901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-72269703298247567832008-05-02T19:53:00.000-07:002008-05-02T19:53:00.000-07:00This is the most thoughful post I have read in a l...This is the most thoughful post I have read in a long time. I am SO coming back and exploring your archives right now.<BR/><BR/>No pressure.BookMammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17911904906865609065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-33339307663825025122008-05-01T12:14:00.000-07:002008-05-01T12:14:00.000-07:00zeekster: I shall endeavor to perservere.aunt beck...zeekster: I shall endeavor to perservere.<BR/><BR/>aunt becky: totally. move in next door.<BR/><BR/>FADKOG: Just <I>act</I> like a cheerleader and they won't know the difference. Use those mad drama skillz, yo.<BR/><BR/>Scientist Mother: I hope you're right.<BR/><BR/>Mandy: I never never believe anything you say :}<BR/><BR/>Kittenpie: the nanny groups are a whole 'nuther story. They definitely don't even try to make room for me, so I don't even try anymore.<BR/><BR/>Stacie: Maybe AMM will let her know about it. Then I can add another person to the long list of people I have trouble looking in the eye.<BR/><BR/>SciFi Dad: Well, they are. But in an awesome, kinky way. No. I lie. That never happens.<BR/><BR/>Mumma Boo: I can't wait for the 37th birthday party in a row. $5 presents for everyone!<BR/><BR/>jonmcp: too true.<BR/><BR/>mom101: Next time, that's what it's going to be! Damn, why didn't I think of it?<BR/><BR/>HeadlessMom: I hate being left out because of the other thing. :}<BR/><BR/>Stefanie: You're not allowed to make me want to cry on my blog. Only on yours. I'm a tough dude, dammit.<BR/><BR/>KJTD: Oh, come one. What are you insecure about? Your awesome husband and cute kid? Your fabulous photos? :} Yeah. I know.Backpacking Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02498905428420679901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-19459139591055000872008-04-30T23:28:00.000-07:002008-04-30T23:28:00.000-07:00Amen, headless mom!I know I feel on the fringe mos...Amen, headless mom!<BR/><BR/>I know I feel on the fringe most of the time, and I think everyone does at some point or another.<BR/><BR/>I'm a SAH mom, and I still feel that way around other SAH moms, so I don't really think it's about that whole working or non-working drama.<BR/><BR/>We are all different in our own ways and have our own insecurities. We just forget that everyone else has them too.Jessica Downeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15535963370808495659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-39508457992632953772008-04-30T23:26:00.000-07:002008-04-30T23:26:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Jessica Downeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15535963370808495659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-53785970900692001732008-04-30T19:21:00.000-07:002008-04-30T19:21:00.000-07:00It really counts that you actually saw the world t...It really counts that you actually saw the world through her point of view. Many of us are outsiders whether it seems that way or not. I know I don't fit in well in many circles and I feel starved for local, fun, moms who have at least a little edge. But it's tough for me with twins and a 3 year old to get together with the ones I do know. So I'm alone. A lot.BabyonBoredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05988664515214410933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-4107969457366036222008-04-30T19:12:00.000-07:002008-04-30T19:12:00.000-07:00This is a great post. We have all felt 'left out' ...This is a great post. We have all felt 'left out' in some way or another. With HG it was because I was the stepmom, with the boys, it's because I'm a little older. And with others it's because I'm this, that, or the other thing.<BR/><BR/>*sigh*I can't find my bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02613321200230079978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-21999097148282369852008-04-30T19:01:00.000-07:002008-04-30T19:01:00.000-07:00Eh, don't beat yourself up. You could have said so...Eh, don't beat yourself up. You could have said something like "Well you have nice boobs." <BR/><BR/>Which, come to think of it, I would have said.Mom101https://www.blogger.com/profile/15468524489744839899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-7430694110122300832008-04-30T18:26:00.000-07:002008-04-30T18:26:00.000-07:00So true! I've noticed it in the nanny crowd as we...So true! I've noticed it in the nanny crowd as well. The ladies who <B>should</B> fit in better than me because they have vaginas but don't fit as well as me because they've not been up at 3 AM with the kid screaming and fevered.Jonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10019348558131112157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-66182740695220767632008-04-30T18:02:00.000-07:002008-04-30T18:02:00.000-07:00Paradigm shifts all around! It's nice to know tha...Paradigm shifts all around! It's nice to know that there are others who feel left out of the loop, no matter what group they fall into. Just wait until your kids get into school - the parent friends seem to come out of the woodwork - especially when you're enduring yet another class birthday party!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-86424695746497003162008-04-30T17:01:00.000-07:002008-04-30T17:01:00.000-07:00Wait... your nipples aren't traumatized?!?Wait... your nipples aren't traumatized?!?SciFi Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10479890087443823197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-84236261604367021662008-04-30T15:52:00.000-07:002008-04-30T15:52:00.000-07:00and you just totally shifted MY paradigm by writin...and you just totally shifted MY paradigm by writing this because I always felt the odd man out because I'm SOOOOOO not like the other moms. I didnt' do the playgroup thing, the playground thing, the pta thing, none of it because I totally felt like because I was so much younger than the rest of them (I started a bit early) that they 'disapproved' of me somehow..real or imagined, that's how I felt, it never occured to me that the dad in the group might have felt the odd man out or the working mom etc..so by just posting this and making us think just a bit, totally makes you awsome! Let her read your blog...she'll know..<BR/>StacieNature Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16725115146167877981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-4282213066621974622008-04-30T15:42:00.000-07:002008-04-30T15:42:00.000-07:00And yet in my neighbourhood, the stay-at-home moms...And yet in my neighbourhood, the stay-at-home moms seem cliquey, so when I was home, I hung by myself, or on the fringes of nanny groups... I am just too shy for this stuff.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-77600294541455984762008-04-30T13:41:00.000-07:002008-04-30T13:41:00.000-07:00I'm sure that since she felt comfortable enough to...I'm sure that since she felt comfortable enough to say something that was the first step. <BR/><BR/>Next time, you'll know you have an opportunity to jump in and say something profound and meaningful. Because the rest of us always say profound and meaningful things when called upon. Really. We do. ;)Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14586323120994967027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-39192567591563843862008-04-30T10:26:00.000-07:002008-04-30T10:26:00.000-07:00you may not have said something to make her feel s...you may not have said something to make her feel so "in" the group, but you did something more important, you didn't make her feel "out" of the group. Sometimes saying nothing is the best thing in the world.ScientistMotherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02540317551396323613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-31201494041912663952008-04-30T09:20:00.000-07:002008-04-30T09:20:00.000-07:00The other day I was sitting with a group of moms w...The other day I was sitting with a group of moms who are full on, SAH moms. No part time jobs, nothing. They meet a couple times a month so the kids (all younger than mine...I really need to have a baby, I think) can plot world domination and the moms can do what they do. So one turns to me and asks why I haven't been to any of their gatherings.<BR/><BR/>I used the "Oh, I always forget those! Can you call me next time?" line, but really, what has kept me from attending is feeling that, because I work just a little bit, I sometimes feel out of their loop. I was just too afraid to say it like that. Silly? Totally.<BR/><BR/>But then part of me was all "Yeah! The cheerleaders finally like me, the drama kid!"for a different kind of girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04431273646365489225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-71636850442472024502008-04-30T09:03:00.000-07:002008-04-30T09:03:00.000-07:00You're a sweet guy, and I wish that I lived closer...You're a sweet guy, and I wish that I lived closer to you, because WE WOULD TOTALLY BE FRIENDS.<BR/><BR/>I have no real "parenting" friends, and could use some. And you? You are awesome. I don't care what you say.Aunt Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146687582842259611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-775208920171527729.post-11596365787429298712008-04-30T07:03:00.000-07:002008-04-30T07:03:00.000-07:00you're awesome just for putting so much thought in...you're awesome just for putting so much thought into this. reach out next time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com